Books

Sarton’s last journal, published after her death. She is dying and knows it, and the writing narrows to essentials: pain, love, the sea, and the people who come and go. The closing volume of the longest sustained record we have of a woman growing very old in public.

Tweit and her husband got his terminal brain-cancer diagnosis and decided to spend the time left travelling and looking at birds. A caregiving memoir that is honest about the tedium and indignity as well as the love. Winner of the Sarton Women Book Award.

Joan Didion’s follow-up to The Year of Magical Thinking turns to the death of her daughter Quintana and to Didion’s own aging body — the blue nights of the title, when daylight lingers longest but dark is coming. A meditation on parenthood, time, and the losses that accumulate as we grow older.

New Yorker cartoonist Roz Chast turns her signature anxious wit on the hardest subject: her elderly parents’ final years. This graphic memoir is funny, wrenching, and utterly honest about the mess of aging parents, overwhelmed adult children, and the things families can’t quite say out loud. Winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award.

Ninety years old and newly diagnosed with uterine cancer, Norma Bauerschmidt declined treatment and got in the motorhome with her son and daughter-in-law instead. A book about an old woman making her own call about her own ending.

Written at sixty with terminal brain cancer, in a matter of weeks. Taylor is unillusioned about dying, angry about having no legal means to choose her moment, and very clear-eyed about her parents deaths as rehearsal for her own.

Eighty, and still keeping the account: birds, letters, visitors, the garden, and a clear-eyed reckoning with how much time is left. The title is not ironic. Sarton found this year had a great deal more in it than she had expected.

The seventy-ninth year, kept partly by dictation as writing by hand became difficult. Sarton is frank about pain, dependence and diminishment, and equally frank about the pleasures that outlast them.

Professional trustee and executor Marguerite Lorenz reframes “success” for the second half of life: not how long you live, but how well you live when you can no longer do everything on your own. Drawing on real client experiences, she blends story chapters, reflective exercises, and practical guidance on quality of life, estate planning, care preferences, and honoring your wishes. A clear-eyed, dignified manual for preparing to live well at ninety and beyond.

Drawing on more than twenty years as a professional trustee and executor, Marguerite Lorenz recasts estate planning as an act of love rather than paperwork — the difference between leaving your future to luck and keeping control of it. With warmth and candor she walks readers through wills, trusts, powers of attorney, advance directives, care preferences, and legacy, showing why planning ahead is one of the greatest gifts you can give the people you love.

Drawing on her PhD in cellular immunology, Ehrenreich argues that much of modern preventive medicine, wellness culture, and the anti-aging industry sells false control over a body and a mortality we cannot ultimately command. She examines how the immune system can itself abet disease, and makes the case for accepting the limits of medicine and the certainty of death rather than killing ourselves to live longer.

When her charismatic, difficult mother Jane chooses to end her life at seventy-five, Susannah Kennedy inherits forty-five years of secret diaries. Over a year of reading them, she reckons with memory, grief, and the mother she thought she knew.

Diana Athill wrote this memoir of old age at about 89: on sex and its fading, on letting go of what cannot be kept, and on the approach of death, without consolation or self-pity. Winner of the 2008 Costa Biography Award.

After feminist poet Marge Piercy suffers a medical emergency in 2022 and is revived, she spends the following year taking stock. Written at ninety in the Japanese zuihitsu form, this luminous journal braids diary, recipes, garden notes, and poetry into a celebration of a life in its ‘resurrected’ old age.

Margareta Magnusson offers warm, practical, and often funny advice for aging joyfully while accepting its losses. Drawing on her life in Sweden and abroad, she encourages readers to stay curious, welcome new technology and younger people, let go of what no longer matters, and remain open to fresh pleasures.

Joan Didion’s masterpiece on grief after the sudden death of her husband of 40 years. A lucid, devastating, and ultimately illuminating account of what it means to lose a life partner and face the future alone. Essential for any woman navigating widowhood or profound loss.

Palliative care physician Kathryn Mannix has spent her career helping people die well. In this luminous book she shares the stories of patients and families navigating the end of life — and makes the case that dying, approached with honesty and preparation, can be peaceful rather than frightening. Essential reading for anyone who intends to grow old.