Books

In this Taschen book (if you don’t know Benedikt Tashen’s outstanding publishing house, you should) Liz Earls talks of divorce, turning fifty and how these events changed her view of the world. If you are a woman who enjoys younger men, either to look at or to embrace, this book may be a great motivator for your writing.  Liz Earls shares sexy explicit photographs of her adventures with younger men in this uninhibited (and VERY Not Safe For Work)  collection.  Her verve is unmistakable.

From 1968 Greenwich Village through five decades of American upheaval, Anita Rappaport comes of age and grows old, sustained by the restorative power of female friendship. As she ages into her seventies, she confronts the title’s question head-on.

This is an anthology of works performed at the (now sadly defunct) Octopus Literary Salon in Oakland, California, at readings of erotica by women over fifty. The Dirty Old Women reading series pushes San Francisco Bay Area culture in the direction of celebrating sexuality after menopause. This volume is a varied collection from the readings, with stories, book excerpts, and poetry.

Full disclosure: My short story, “Terraforming,” is included in this collection. Many of the other stories were written by friends, so naturally I am fond of this volume for personal reasons as well as the fun read it undoubtedly is. If you live in the San Francisco Bay Area, or if you travel there, check out the Dirty Old Women reading schedule (usually the 4th Tuesday of the month).

One day I woke up and there was a seventy-year-old woman in my bed. Two long essays on women and ageing from a writer who spent her sixties and seventies refusing the script. Steinem is direct about what changes, what does not, and why she found these decades freer than the ones before — the most squarely on-topic book she wrote.

Janina is a reclusive older woman living alone in the Polish mountains — a vegetarian, astrologer, and fierce lover of animals who begins to suspect that her missing neighbors are being killed by hunters. Nobel laureate Olga Tokarczuk’s darkly comic novel is a murder mystery in which the detective is an aging woman the world has already dismissed.

Ninety years old and newly diagnosed with uterine cancer, Norma Bauerschmidt declined treatment and got in the motorhome with her son and daughter-in-law instead. A book about an old woman making her own call about her own ending.

Book two of the Veil of Time series. Maggie has built a careful, predictable life back in the present, but the past has not finished with her. A sudden vision pulls her through time again, into a world of ancient power and shifting loyalties — and back to Fergus, the warrior prince she never forgot. Political tension is rising, a dangerous alliance threatens his family, and her hold on the past is more fragile than before; she has to decide how much she will risk for a love that crosses centuries.

Why it’s here: Historical fantasy rather than a story of later life, published by Sibylline Digital First — women authors over 50. It belongs here for its middle book’s question, which is a familiar one after fifty: whether the safe, predictable life you assembled is the one you actually want.

Book one of the Veil of Time series. After losing her daughter, Maggie retreats to the Scottish countryside and the shadow of ancient Dunadd Fort. When she stops taking the medication that has controlled her seizures — and dulled her feelings — she begins slipping into another time, where the ruined fort stands whole and the past is alive. Taken in at the court of Queen Brighde by Fergus, a grieving prince, she finds feelings stirring that she thought were finished, and a life she does not want to leave. With a life-altering surgery waiting in the present, she has to choose between the world she knows and the one that feels like home.

Why it’s here: A time-slip romance rather than a book about aging, from Sibylline Digital First, whose list is women authors over 50. It earns its place as a story about a woman rebuilding after devastating loss and discovering that desire, purpose and a second life were never actually behind her.

Written at sixty with terminal brain cancer, in a matter of weeks. Taylor is unillusioned about dying, angry about having no legal means to choose her moment, and very clear-eyed about her parents deaths as rehearsal for her own.

At 60, Nan Watkins set out alone to circumnavigate the globe — moving east toward dawn across Asia, Australia, and beyond. Her travel memoir is a record of a woman in motion at an age when the culture suggests slowing down, written with the observational eye of someone who has learned to pay attention.

Geriatrician Louise Aronson spent 25 years caring for older patients before writing this Pulitzer finalist — part memoir, part manifesto — arguing that America’s medical system is failing its elders and that old age deserves to be treated as a distinct, valuable stage of human life, not a problem to be managed.

Eighty, and still keeping the account: birds, letters, visitors, the garden, and a clear-eyed reckoning with how much time is left. The title is not ironic. Sarton found this year had a great deal more in it than she had expected.

The seventy-ninth year, kept partly by dictation as writing by hand became difficult. Sarton is frank about pain, dependence and diminishment, and equally frank about the pleasures that outlast them.

A novel from Dawn French about Etta, a healthy, happy 68-year-old who gathers her family for a weekend and announces that today is her last day alive. Over the following twenty-four hours the family shares a surprising, darkly funny, and unexpectedly life-affirming day together — a celebration of a life fully lived.

A powerful corrective to decades of fear around hormone therapy. Presents the science showing estrogen is safe and beneficial for most women. Essential before any HRT decision.

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Photographer Jo Blackwell put that question to hundreds of women and photographed 166 of them exactly as they are — no make-up, no styling, no filters — each portrait paired with the woman’s own words about growing older, being seen, and letting go of unrealistic expectations. Featured by the BBC, it is not a glossy “embrace ageing” book; it is a quiet, truthful record of older faces, and an argument that every one of them is worth looking at.

Why it’s here: The portraits begin at forty, not fifty — but the project’s whole subject is the visibility and self-acceptance the second half of life demands, and its honest older faces are the point.

The Menopausal Superheroes step out of the shadows, and the pressure mounts on every front. As public scrutiny intensifies and their personal lives strain under the weight of secret identities, the women must navigate fresh dangers while holding together a fragile alliance and the relationships that matter most.

n this poignant tale, Jong interweaves the narrator’s sexual experience in her sixties with tales of her formerly glamorous parents as their health fails. As my own mother told me when she was in her nineties and I was in my sixties, “Enjoy your youth.”

Jong’s protagonist is determined to do just that. She works hard to reclaim the joys of her long-term marriage, and dances to the siren music of potential affairs. Ripe women have been dancing that tightrope for centuries without the benefit of literary models; Jong’s art makes visible what has been invisible. For those of us determined to prioritize our own erotic and creative lives, even while doing our best for aging parents and young adult children, this book holds up a mirror to the lives we are leading.

Jong at fifty, taking stock of the sexual revolution she helped write and of what it actually delivered to the women who lived it. The companion volume to Fear of Dying, and the more surprising of the two.

Two women in their 70s have been best friends since childhood, summering on a wild Maine peninsula they have vowed to protect from development. Alice Elliott Dark’s sweeping novel is about female friendship, legacy, secrets, and the question of what we owe the places and people we love most.

Millar is seventy-four and has had five careers, including civil engineering, teaching physics, building and losing businesses, and running a global headhunting firm through the 2008 crash. Her argument is that midlife advice keeps women waiting for systems to change, and that self-knowledge and boundaries are the faster route to autonomy.

At fifty-eight, just out of her longest relationship, Carolyn Lee Arnold decided not to look for a partner but to gather data — fifty first dates, tracked and reflected on, to work out what she actually wanted rather than what she had settled for twice before.

What follows is candid about desire, about dating as an older woman in the San Francisco Bay Area, and about the unexpected discovery that the project itself was the point.

Drawn from the lives of fifty women who built rewarding lives on their own terms, Dr. Susan R. Meyer’s guide distills seven key factors for creating the life you deserve — at any age. Her subjects span Fortune 100 executives, entrepreneurs, a home health aide, and a retired saleswoman, and among them have weathered job loss, divorce, illness, and widowhood. Part inspiration, part practical roadmap for reinvention in the second half of life.

Broke, eccentric, seventy-three-year-old Aurora drives to LA chasing a possible inheritance; her estranged, perfectionist forty-three-year-old daughter heads there to spy on her husband. Their quests collide over one chaotic, unexpectedly healing weekend. A sharp comic novel.